Quote of the Week- James A. Lafond-Lewis

"The fearless are the people who act in spite of their fear." 
-James A. LaFond-Lewis

Feel the fear and do it anyway. Act in spite of your fear. A lot of what goes on in our heads are but imaginations and there is no way of knowing what the outcome is going to be until we begin to do the very thing it is we are afraid of. Action is the only way you will overcome fear. It is natural to be afraid, to be apprehensive, to want to stop where you are and not take another step toward your destiny. 

We have to find out the basis of our fear. Is it based on a past experience? Or have you let your imagination get the best of the situation and you are sitting still because of what "could" happen? Two totally different situations and most of the time we are standing still and afraid of the unknown. We are being forced to move into areas where we have no idea what is going to happen and what the outcomes are going to be, this causes us to be paralyzed. Protecting yourself from hurt is natural. It is another thing to never have experienced something, but be paralyzed by preconceived notions on what to expect without any evidence of negative. This is the type of fear which will keep you where you don't want to be. 

Faith is the opposite of fear. Being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you do not see. Right now in my faith walk, I am at a point where I have exhausted all my familiar possibilities and am being forced to not only go where I have never been, but to do it in boldness and certainty. The pathway is dark and uncertain, but I have come too far to turn back and the place where I am now, is not a place of comfort. There is no other choice but to keep moving forward. 

Here are a few things I do to help me overcome any fear that arises:
  • I look at every situation as an opportunity 
  • I realize I have nothing to lose in trying
  • I believe people are going to be willing to help me 
  • I anticipate the best outcome first and give myself permission to fail
  • I realize I am in control of my reactions and reject all negative feelings as they arise
This has taken some anxiety out of acting in spite of the fear. Many people who know me are shocked to hear me speak about being afraid or fearful because don't let the fear stop me, I do it anyway. This is the difference. Even though I am scared and have no idea what the outcome will be, I know the only way I will find out the definite outcome is to act and see what happens. Afterwards I can adjust, change or try something else and as soon as I decide to act in spite of the fear, the fear no longer controls me. Then I realized there was nothing to be afraid of after all.

What things are you afraid of? Have you tried them yet to find out if you have anything to be afraid of? How have you overcome some past fears? Let me know your thoughts.

~C. Nzingha