Don't Assume You're Grown-Up!

Maturity is not measured by the number of years a person has lived. Instead, the yardstick of maturity is marked by the qualities of self-denial, determination, and dependability." Xenia Garcia

Maturity is defined by freedictionary.com as the state or quality of being fully grown or developed. According to alleydog.com maturity in psychology has little to do with age, but with the ability to react, cope and reason in an appropriate way for the situation. Maturity is learned through experiences and comes from healthy growth, just like a strong body. Guidance in coping with emotional situations is what is needed to grow in maturity. The way a person deals with a crisis or makes decisions are good clues about their level of maturity.In order to be successful in business, in life and in love, one must possess a healthy level of emotional maturity. The question is not whether or not we can acquire things or attract people into our lives, we can do anything we put our minds to. The more appropriate question is: can we handle the things we want once we get them? Love, wealth, success, good health all come with the cost of responsibility.
We have to take responsibility for our actions and the results of them and refrain from placing blame on others when things don't go as planned. Even though we our adults by age, I'm becoming witness more and more to adult cry babies, adult temper tantrums and immaturity in people who are my senior. It has made me take a step back to reflect and examine myself because in my opinion it's extremely unattractive and unprofessional. Last night in fact I had to look in the mirror and tell myself I take full responsibility for every choice I've ever made, for my current status and position in life, for my happiness, for my career for everything. At that moment of vulnerability I took back the power I gave up to others. I had previously given power to others by transferring responsibility for myself and my actions over to them, by accepting an unconscious victim mindset. I am the boss of me and I'm not reactive, I'm proactive. I assume the responsibility of my level of success by using everyday to my advantage and by consistently making good decisions. As we give thanks for being blessed this week and throughout the weekend, it's a good time to reflect and assume responsibility for yourself and your actions and the consequences that have resulted in your actions and decisions. It's not enough to think you're grown and have reached a certain level of maturity by mere age alone. Your actions, thought process, outward expression and communication skills all have to confirm your level of maturity and line up with appropriate behavior. It's easy to place blame on others. It's difficult to hold yourself accountability to how your life is and will ultimately be. You have the power to control you and to change the circumstances in which are causing you to be unhappy, unsuccessful and unfulfilled. The first step is maturity and healthy emotional health in life, love and business.How do you normally react when things don't go your way or when you face obstacles? Do you place blame, have a tantrum or face it and deal with it to change it? Let me know your thoughts.C. Nzingha